If people are reared without empathy, there are some really awful things they know to be normal. Sometimes these adored people (adored by God and yet not often by those closest to them) need help to understand a new normal.
When we try to keep them on the hook (hold them accountable for what they do and say) but we do it before we give them empathy, it doesn't work. Why? I have no idea. It has something to do with the brain.
Brain science has revealed SO much in the past decade! It's amazing to me all the things which are coming to the surface as understanding and AHA! moments occur. In my case, it happens within my head and heart and innards as I deal with myself and others and keep learning and listening and applying and trying.
What if people start sowing differently? What if we can help people begin to believe that there really are safe people out there? What if they really can develop pathways in their brain to feel right brained shame rather than building systems and relational structures to keep shame away?
I have pondered, wrestled and won. I am so eager to share with you...though if you have a clinical background you might be very put off by my stuff. Remember, I am putting this out there for the Do It Yourself crowd who will not darken the door of a therapist.
As my friend Arthur Burk says, "There has to be a better way!"
When we try to keep them on the hook (hold them accountable for what they do and say) but we do it before we give them empathy, it doesn't work. Why? I have no idea. It has something to do with the brain.
Brain science has revealed SO much in the past decade! It's amazing to me all the things which are coming to the surface as understanding and AHA! moments occur. In my case, it happens within my head and heart and innards as I deal with myself and others and keep learning and listening and applying and trying.
What if people start sowing differently? What if we can help people begin to believe that there really are safe people out there? What if they really can develop pathways in their brain to feel right brained shame rather than building systems and relational structures to keep shame away?
I have pondered, wrestled and won. I am so eager to share with you...though if you have a clinical background you might be very put off by my stuff. Remember, I am putting this out there for the Do It Yourself crowd who will not darken the door of a therapist.
As my friend Arthur Burk says, "There has to be a better way!"
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